How to Influence your Child's learning

When it comes to teaching kids, prep and kindergarten teachers know which children will be easy to teach and which children will be difficult to teach because they will struggle to learn.

It has nothing to do with how intelligent a child is, or whether they know how to write their names. If a child's appears ready to learn, eager to try new things, willing to be taught, chances are that he or she will have a good year, a year in which they learn all they capable of learning.

How do teachers know this?

Almost as soon as a child enters a classroom the teacher is noticing how he or she reacts to the new environment. Is the child curious? Does he look round the room to see what it contains? Is she confident enough to leave her mother's side? Does he try to get on with the other children in the room or does he ignore them and do what he wants to do? Does she know how to sit in a group, or is she not ready to be part of the class? Is he tired and grumpy, or rested and happy to be there?

These are the signs a teacher looks for. These are the signs that let the teacher know whether the child is ready to learn.


When a child is ready to learn the teacher can start teaching the things he or she needs to learn. Things like reading and writing, counting, colors, days of the week and months of the year. All the basic things children need to start to understand. But if a child is not ready to learn the teacher has to spend time helping the child be ready. She has to help him or her learn how to listen, sit in a group, share, take turns and respond to questions. This is can be hard work, especially when the teacher has many children in the class. Most teachers are very good at doing this, but it takes time away from teaching other things, it slows down a child's learning.

It is important for children to be ready to learn so that they can benefit from what the teacher offers.

Parents help children get ready to learn, they make the difference between children who can and cannot benefit from all the teacher offers. They influence their child's readiness to learn.

Parents influence their children's learning in three ways. I call them the '3M's'.

The first 'M' is Modeling.


You are being watched!

Children love you and want to be like you. They watch you do and try to do what you do. What they see you doing has much more influence on their actions than what you tell them to do. You must have heard the saying, "Do what I say, not what I do"? You have probably used it yourself on many occasions. I am sure it was invented by a parent who became exasperated when a child copied the actions of the parent rather than doing the right thing!

The school in which I used to teach was on a busy city road, trucks, buses and cars would hurtle along it and some would even run the lights. It was a very dangerous road and we made sure that all the children knew how to cross it safely. Despite all our careful teaching and warnings of danger, some children would run across the road dodging traffic.

Why did they do this? Because that is what their parents did. Some parents, in a hurry to get home after picking up their child from school, would rush across the road ignoring basic rules of safely. If parents could do this the children felt that they could do it too. What the parent did was much more influential than all the words of warning, the 'Do as I say' that had come from the teachers.

Modeling is the most important way you influence your child's behavior. You can't stop being a model for your child, you are being a model to your child whenever you are together. Just think, whatever you say and do when your child can see or hear you is influencing your child's behavior, is influencing how well your child learns.

The example above shows how poor behavior on your part creates your poor behavior in your child. But the opposite is just as true. When your child sees you behaving in ways that demonstrate good behavior your child will try to behave well too.

So, before you try to tell your child how to behave, check on what you do. Are you sending the right message?

Original by Dr. Patricia Porter

How to make sure your kids never suffer like you did

growing up with my dad, step-mum and siblings have been such an interesting experience, the fights, pranks, foolish jokes and sharing in times of pain and success all together adds to an unforgettable experience for me, but one thing I will never forget in a hurry is the way my parents struggled financially.

this had a tremendous impact in my life as a youngster that I stated devising ways to beat the trend of cashlessness, and believe me, it does pay to take radical steps to change whatsoever you find unpleasant in your life.

to this end, I further decided to post this article to pass to others like me who would like to see their own kids breakout from what may have held them from being productive in life, these areas are basically in
1. Money (and Debt Management)
2. Indiscipline and
3. Managing Relationships

for starters we'll deal with Money, then later with the other two. concerning money, teach your kids the following if they must not suffer like you did while growing up

1. Show Them Unconditional Love - This is to say no matter what your kids do to offend you remember you were once a kid yourself and to build a better foundation for your kids, they need to know what true love is and not the one written on the pages of a novel or movie, but have a real experience so that they can also pass same to their own offspring.

Enjoying your kids

This will be (if not I would have told ya!) the concluding step to being that great father of parent your kids would love.

Having gone through various steps (check the post), what I have for you today is this final step - Learn to enjoy your child or children whichever applies.

Kids are fun to be with. Your ability to learn and commit yourself to spending quality time with them would make a big difference both to them as well as to you.

Think about this, you want your kid's attention but you would rather watch a football game than taking time off to know which game your kid is interested in, or how he or she is faring with school and peer pressure, that my friend, is going to drive a Brooklyn Bridge distance between you and your kid and we do not need that do we?

so, the way out?

I thought I told you, :)

devotedly spend time with your kid, enjoy his or her company, get to know what he or she likes, take time out for a walk, just have fun together, be there when you are needed, share moments.

Kids love attention, that I could tell ya, from my experience with my daughter, she wants daddy to see this and see that!

You owe your kids a great deal, you owe them love - go beyond yourself and give them that love you possibly never enjoyed.

Hope this helps you as much as it helped me,leave a comment would ya?

How to be the Father your kids love - step 3

Are you losing your kid(s) to games, drugs and the likes?

Maybe its just because with the extra loving and instruction you have been giving, there needs to be and addition of this vital step in winning kids and that is our number three today.

Learn to Correct your kid in Love

Irrespective of the behavioral patterns of kids at various stages of their life, LOVE is still the glue that keeps not just families but friends together and that is what we want for you right? yea, kids love to be told how they could do better next time when they mess up - same goes for yours too.

so the key?

1. Never correct your kid when you are angry

2. Avoid making any form of remarks when in that state of anger, why? you might just say something that you may forever regret in life.

3. Never correct without giving a good reason for the correction, why? that kid may just do it all over again,meaning - no message got, no lesson learned.

Discipline is good for kids, especially when in their formative years. I believe kids should be disciplined in a loving manner knowing that it took a hell of a job to get them from conception to delivery. I ain't ready to loose my kid to an act I could control and deal with.

what do you think?

stick around for other steps..

How to be the Father your kids love

Love like many say, is not enough, so to add to giving unconditional love to your kid(s)learn to:

Instruct and teach your kids

Attention is the key for winning kids these days.

you could say I love you and not be around to help form their character and how to handle life, or fold your sleeves and show your love by passing instructions that you will be ready to back up with love.

Like I said earlier, it is either you make a commitment to impart virtues into your kids today for a long standing legacy you’ll be proud of or suffer the consequences which would build over their formative years among many could include; violent behaviors, withdrawn attitudes that depict funny involvements in cults, drugs, pornography or any other social vices, just to mention but a few.

Let this guide you, ‘what you do not teach your kids they will pick from others’ and guess who suffers the shame and pain, yes! Got it like I knew you would – You!

How to be the Father your kids desire

In his world of video games, football, and internet there is very little a man can do when he has lost the attention of his kids, did I say very little a man can do? yes!

If there is anything you can do, it will be looking for how to get the attention of a kid that alread thinks you to be too old fashioned for today and probably too jealous to admit you wished you were they.

Even if you had a way, you will have to be prepared to face a barage of word assaults to get even an iota of attention, so how does this article help, simple, this message is to help you try not to loose your kids attention in the first place, and if you have, this piece would do just fine.

Now for the clues

Learn to Show your kids unconditional love

Yep, learn, as a man you are likely going to be overtaken by ego by trying to always insist things be done your way, because you think you love them. Get a life, there’s no use saying you love someone and all you do is either bully as a form of showing affection or buy fancy presents, jewelries and that’s it. Many kids today like to have their dad say it and mean it.

Why, you ask?
Kids these days can smell a lie from miles away. They can easily tell when you’re faking it, which also would cause them to fake obedience. And if you must be outstanding as a father you must understand this, children need your ‘presence’ and not your ‘presents’

this would lead to our next tip...

Helping Your Kids to Make Money Online

Kids are adorable. Many often hope to have them, some do, others don't. But what actually matters is how to ensure these little "Bennie bunnies" are well taken care of. Now I would love you to give this article a deep thought and ask yourself "do I want to do this?"

when you're done, feel free to let me in on your decision.

Here's the article by - Matthew Bredel

Parents have a huge responsibility in teaching their children about how to succeed in life. From basic discipline to table manners to educational matters, there is so much children and teenagers need to learn that, as parents, it can be easy to neglect certain areas that seem less urgent. However, educating children about how to earn a living and provide for themselves is just one of those lessons you can't afford to neglect.

As tough financial times are upon us, it is more important than ever to help our children find creative ways to bring in income. We don't know where the economy is going to be in ten or twenty years. It's also hard to say what the employment situation will be down the road. But we can guess that the Internet is still going to be booming.

Even during a recession, when the rest of the business world is struggling, online entrepreneurs continue to report surprising success making money online. How can we help our children to tap into this? It could be the answer to their future financial security.

Opportunities for earning money online are seemingly endless. Chances are, your child is already a pro at working the Internet, i.e. playing games, using Facebook or Myspace, researching for school topics. Why not channel that interest and ability into learning about online careers?

Parenting experts agree that identifying your child's skills and helping them to develop them is a great way to connect with your children and maximize their potential. Since most kids and teens are already illustrating skills when it comes to the Internet, it makes since to work with what they have.

If you start now prepping your child's Internet skills and showing her how she can do what she enjoys to make money, the sky's the limit. Imagine what could happen by age 18!

However, perhaps even more exciting than a secure financial future is the chance to do something of importance with your child, developing that all-important bond. This is what quality time is all about.

If you have an online business or even an online business interest, involve your child. Show him the ropes. Include him in on the research, so he can know what you are doing. Let him ask questions. If you think he is interested and ready, give him a small job for which he can be responsible.

Of course, it is important when you are working online that you monitor your child and help him to learn to identify scams and even Internet predators. This in itself is a great skill for any child or teenager to have.

It is exciting to think about the potential that lies within your child. By interacting with her and helping her to determine her strengths and weaknesses, you will not only develop important skills for life but you will also learn more about the person your child is becoming. Whether your child becomes the next big Internet marketer or never really gets past Facebook, you won't regret spending time with him and building skills for life.

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