In order to win your child custody battle you must first put into perspective the whole win/lose mentality of child custody. Obviously, there is a lot of emotion surrounding child custody as it affects the most important thing in your life; your children. But you must also remember that to win anything, even child custody, you must first get your emotions in check.
The number one mistake people make in their child custody battle (and their divorce for that matter) is to react rather than respond to the situation.
Think about it.
When you react, you tend to act impulsively. You act against or are in opposition to something. You're playing defense.
When you respond, you're more measured. You determine a course of action and proceed. You have a plan. You're playing offense.
With emotions running so high in child custody battles, there is a strong tendency to react and follow your emotions.
When you do this, you allow your ex to take control and manipulate the situation to their benefit.
It's hard to build a strong case and win child custody when you're so busy responding to what your ex is doing or consumed with overwhelming emotions.
Guilt over leaving your spouse...
Fear over what your partner may do...
Shame over a failed marriage...
Sadness at having to face the breakup...
Anger at your ex's accusations...
Making any kind of decision when in these emotional states will not help you in the long run, and could seriously hurt your case.
The first step to winning child custody is to step back... take a breath... and realize that you need to have a clear head to make the best decision for you and your children.
Vent to your friends.
Vent to your therapist.
Get it out of your system.
Then work at looking logically at your situation. Move forward with a reasonable and clear plan. Winning child custody is about being prepared and being ahead of the game, not reacting emotionally to things that have already happened.
To get the 9 critical strategies for winning child custody when dealing with irrational, vindictive or abusive ex's, click here: http://www.winning-child-custody-strategies.com
Joan Baker is an expert in child custody after going through her own custody ordeal, researching the laws and now helping other women going through the process.
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Tuesday, September 9, 2008
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